Thursday, 19 May 2016

How To Create A Healing Environment At Home

One of the first things to do, when you want to remove stress from your life, is to create a healing environment at home. It's a well-known fact that stress affects both your physical and emotional well-being. So, to feel your best, you need to remove the negativity associated with a hectic lifestyle. The good news is... it's probably not as difficult as you think. Keep reading to learn more.
Let's face it, a healthy environment makes you feel safe and helps to eliminate feelings of sadness, worry and helplessness. It's void of noise and confusion which, over the long term, can lead to issues such as high blood pressure, heart disease and even strokes. You may not be able to control your environment at work, but the task is certainly achievable at home. Consider the following tips to help you get started.
Your Overall Goal

Your overall goal is to create a nurturing (and therapeutic) space, filled with some of the things you love the most. Doing so promotes spiritual growth and self-healing. Ideally, this works best if you have a spare room you can convert into your own special haven. If that's not a possibility, don't panic. Simply create multiple "mini spaces" throughout your home.

In the event that money is an issue, you always have the option of buying things secondhand, to utilize when decorating. If you're a bargain hunter, think of it as your newest (stress-free) adventure.

Eliminate Clutter
Everyone would be better off if they took the time to eliminate clutter in their lives. Have you ever tried to completely relax in a room full of clutter? It's almost impossible to do, isn't it? Get rid of things you no longer use. Give these things to charity or have a garage sale. Someone else will be happy to give your unwanted belongings a new home.
Utilize Color
Certain colors affect the way you feel. So if you have the time and energy, you might consider repainting your space. You can either go with a color that automatically makes you happy or choose one known to invoke a positive response. For example, red typically causes an invigorating reaction and blue has the (opposite) calming effect.
Additional Ideas
There are so many additional things that you can do to create a healing environment in your home. They include, but are not limited to:
  • candles or a fireplace
  • aromatherapy (lavender is particularly calming)
  • water fountain or aquarium
  • live plants and flowers (some of which even cleanse the air)
  • natural  lighting options
  • family photos
Quite honestly, the possibilities are endless. If you find it relaxing to read a good book, think about creating a reading corner. On the other hand, if you love to fix things, the ideal healing environment might be a workspace in the garage. The choice is up to you!
Now that you know more about creating a healthy environment at home, what are you waiting for? Remember, you don't have to complete the project overnight. The idea is to reduce stress, not to make it worse. This is something that can be done on an ongoing basis. There's nothing wrong with creating a relaxing environment that is forever a "work in progress."
Tweet: Are you feeling overly stressed? If so, why not consider creating a healing environment at home? It can be done!

Tuesday, 17 May 2016

Becoming A Healthy Eater

Being a healthy eater requires you to become both
educated and smart about what healthy eating
actually is.  Being food smart isn't about
learning to calculate grams or fat, or is it
about studying labels and counting calories.

Healthy eating is all about balanced and moderate
eating, consisting of healthy meals at least
three times per day.  Healthy eaters eat many
different types of foods, not limiting themselves
to one specific food type or food group.

Eating healthy requires quite a bit of leeway.  You
might eat too much or not enough, consume
foods that are sometimes more or less nutritious.
However, you should always fuel your body and
your brain regularly with enough food to keep
both your mind and body strong and alert.

A healthy eater is a good problem solver.  Healthy
eaters have learned to take care of themselves
and their eating with sound judgement and making
wise decisions.  Healthy eaters are always aware
of what they eat, and know the effect that it
will have on their bodies.

When someone is unable to take control of their
eating, they are also likely to get out of control
with other aspects of life as well.  They could
end up spending too much, talking too much, even
going to bed later and later.

You should always remember that restricting food
in any way is always a bad thing.  Healthy eating
is a way of life, something that you can do to
enhance your body or your lifestyle.  If you've
thought about making your life better, healthy
eating is just the place to start.  You'll make
life easier for yourself, those around you, and
even your family.  

Sunday, 8 May 2016

Why not happy with my life


why not happy with my life

Almost everyone have heard the hit single 'Don't Worry, Be Happy' by Bobby McFerrin. The song has a very catchy way of conveying its message of being happy to everyone. Bobby Mcferiin's simple message surely made a lot of people by telling them not to worry.

Living a happy, resilient and optimistic life is wonderful, and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life. Stress is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer and stroke.

One of the better things ever said is - 'The only thing in life that will always remain the same is change', and in our life we have the power to make the necessary changes if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation we can always find solace in the knowledge that it too would change.

why not happy with my life

Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different, accept people for who or what they are, avoid clashes, constant arguments, and let go of all kinds of resentments. If arguments seem unavoidable still try and make an effort to understand the situation and you might just get along with well with

Happiness is actually found in everyone, increasing it is a way to make a life more wonderful and also more healthy.

To be happy is relatively easy, just decide to be a happy person. Abraham Lincoln observed that most people for most of the time can choose how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how bright or dull their outlook to be. The choice is simple really, choose to be happy.

be happy with what you have

There are several ways by which you can do this.
Being grateful is a great attitude.  We have so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful dinner and thank the guy who cleans your windows. Also thank the mailman for bringing you your mails, thank the policeman for making your place safe and thank God for being alive.

News is stressful. Get less of it. Some people just can't start their day without their daily dose of news. Try and think about it, 99% of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting the day with bad news does not seem to be a sensible thing to do.

A religious connection is also recommended. Being part of a religious group with its singing, sacraments, chanting, prayers and meditations foster inner peace.

Manage your time. Time is invaluable and too important to waste. Time management can be viewed  as a list of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating lists of things to do and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time management that should be understood to develop an efficient personal time management skill. These basic skills can be fine tuned further to include the finer points of each skill that can give you that extra reserve to make the results you desire.

Laugh and laugh heartily everyday.  Heard a good joke? Tell your friends or family about it. As they also say -'Laughter is the best medicine'.

why not happy with my life

Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you. They will most likely reciprocate your actions. Try not to keep pent up anger of frustrations, this is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone.
Working hard brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives a feeling of being competent in finishing our tasks. Accomplishments are necessary for all of us, they give us a sense of value. Work on things that you feel worthy of your time.

Learning is a joyful exercise. Try and learn something new everyday.  Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons. And could also give us more opportunities in the future.

Run, jog, walk and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive.

Avoid exposure to negative elements like loud noises, toxins and hazardous places.

These are the few simple things you can do everyday to be happy.

And always remember the quote from Abraham Lincoln, he says that, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."


why not happy with my life

Happy as you want to be



Thursday, 5 May 2016

Unlock your brain

why not happy with my life

When we look at a certain object, a painting for example – we won’t be able to appreciate what’s in it, what is painted and what else goes with it  if the painting is just an inch away from our face. But if we try to take it a little further, we’ll have a clearer vision of the whole art work.

We reach a point in our life when we are ready for change and a whole bunch of information that will help us unlock our self improvement power. Until then, something can be staring us right under our nose but we don’t see it.  The only time we think of unlocking our self improvement power is when everything got worst. Take the frog principle for example –

Try placing Frog A in a pot of boiling water. What happens? He twerps! He jumps off! Why? Because he is not able to tolerate sudden change in his environment – the water’s temperature. Then try Frog B: place him in a luke warm water, then turn the gas stove on. Wait til the water reaches a certain boiling point. Frog B then thinks “Ooh… it’s a bit warm in here”.

People are like Frog B in general. Today, Anna thinks Carl hates her. Tomorrow, Patrick walks up to her and told her he hates her. Anna stays the same and doesn’t mind her what her friends says. The next day, she learned that Kim and John also abhors her. Anna doesn’t realize at once the importance and the need for self improvement until the entire community hates her.

We learn our lessons when we experience pain. We finally see the warning signs and signals when things get rough and tough. When do we realize that we need to change diets? When none of our jeans and shirts would fit us. When do we stop eating candies and chocolates? When all of our teeth has fallen off. When do we realize that we need to stop smoking? When our lungs have gone bad. When do we pray and ask for help? When we realize that we’re gonna die tomorrow.

The only time most of us ever learn about unlocking our self improvement power is when the whole world is crashing and falling apart. We think and feel this way because it is not easy to change. But change becomes more painful when we ignore it.

Change will happen, like it or hate it. At one point or another, we are all going to experience different turning points in our life – and we are all going to eventually unlock our self improvement power not because the world says so, not because our friends are nagging us, but because we realized its for our own good.

Happy people don’t just accept change, they embrace it. Now, you don’t have to feel a tremendous heat before realizing the need for self improvement.  Unlocking your self improvement power means unlocking yourself up in the cage of thought that “its just the way I am”. It is such a poor excuse for people who fear and resist change. Most of us program our minds like computers.

Jen repeatedly tells everyone that she doesn’t have the guts to be around groups of people. She heard her mom, her dad, her sister, her teacher tell the same things about her to other people. Over the years, that is what Jen believes. She believes its her story. And what happens? Every time a great crowd would troop over their house, in school, and in the community – she tends to step back, shy away and lock herself up in a room. Jen didn’t only believed in her story, she lived it.

Jen has to realize that she is not what she is in her story. Instead of having her story post around her face for everyone to remember, she has to have the spirit and show people “I am an important person and I should be treated accordingly!”

Self improvement may not be everybody’s favorite word, but if we look at things in a different point of view, we might have greater chances of enjoying the whole process instead of counting the days until we are fully improved. Three sessions in a week at the gym would result to a healthier life, reading books instead of looking at porns will shape up a more profound knowledge, going out with friends and peers will help you take a step back from work and unwind.  And just when you are enjoying the whole process of unlocking your self improvement power, you’ll realize that you’re beginning to take things light and become happyBecoming a Great Marketer: Invention vs. Upgrade

Enjoy Your Life: Change Your Point of View

"Two men look out through the same bars: One sees the mud, and one sees the stars."- Frederick Lang bridge, A Cluster of Quiet Thoughts

If you’ve placed second in a writing contest, will you jump for joy and push for better results the next time or will you be discouraged and find an excuse not to join again?

In life, you are always filled with choices. You may opt to have a pessimist’s view and live a self-defeated life or you may decide to take the optimist’s route and take a challenging and fulfilling life.

So why nurture an optimist’s point of view? And why now?

Well, optimism has been linked to positive mood and good morale; to academic, athletic, military, occupational and political success; to popularity; to good health and even to long life and freedom from trauma.

On the other hand, the rates of depression and pessimism have never been higher. It affects middle-aged adults the same way it hits younger people. The mean age of onset has gone from 30 to 15. It is no longer a middle-aged housewife’s disorder but also a teen-ager’s disorder’ as well.

Here’s how optimists are in action and researches that back up why it really pays to be an optimist:

Optimists expect the best

The defining characteristic of pessimists is that they tend to believe bad events, which will last a long time and undermine everything they do, are their own fault.

The truth is optimists are confronted with the same hard knocks of this world. What differs is the way they explain their misfortune---it’s the opposite way. They tend to believe defeat is just a temporary setback, that its causes are confined to this one case.

Optimists tend to focus on and plan for the 'problem' at hand. They use 'positive reinterpretation.' In other words, they most likely reinterpret a negative experience in a way that helps them learn and grow. Such people are unfazed by bad situation, they perceive it is a challenge and try harder.

They won’t say “things will never get better,” “If I failed once, it will happen again” and “If I experience misfortune in one part of my life, then it will happen in my whole life.”

Positive expectancies of optimists also predict better reactions during transitions to new environments, sudden tragedies and unlikely turn of events. If they fall, they will stand up. They see opportunities instead of obstacles.

People respond positively to optimists

Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for their happiness. They find no need to control or manipulate people. They usually draw people towards them. Their optimistic view of the world can be contagious and influence those they are with.

Optimism seems a socially desirable trait in all communities. Those who share optimism are generally accepted while those who spread gloom, panic and hysteria are treated unfavorably.

In life, these people often win elections; get voted most congenial and sought for advice.

When the going gets tough, optimists get tougher

Optimists typically maintain higher levels of subjective well-being during times of stress than do people who are less optimistic. In contrast, pessimists are likely to react to stressful events by denying that they exist or by avoiding dealing with problems. Pessimists are more likely to quit trying when difficulties arise.

They persevere. They just don’t give up easily, they are also known for their patience. Inching their way a step closer to that goal or elusive dream.

Optimists are healthier and live longer

Medical research has justified that simple pleasures and a positive outlook can cause a measurable increase in the body's ability to fight disease.

Optimists’ health is unusually good. They age well, much freer than most people from the usual physical ills of middle age. And they get to outlive those prone to negative thoughts.

So why not be an optimist today? And think positively towards a more fulfilled life.

Why not look forward to success in all your endeavors? Why not be resilient? Like everybody else you are bound to hit lows sometimes but don’t just stay there. Carry yourself out of the mud and improve your chances of getting back on the right track. And why not inspire others to remove their dark-colored glasses and see life in the bright side?

The Key to a Better Life

Time management is basically about being focused. The Pareto
Principle also known as the '80:20 Rule' states that 80% of efforts that
are not time managed or unfocused generates only 20% of the desired
output. However, 80% of the desired output can be generated using
only 20% of a well time managed effort. Although the ratio '80:20' is
only arbitrary, it is used to put emphasis on how much is lost or how
much can be gained with time management.
Some people view time management as a list of rules that involves
scheduling of appointments, goal settings, thorough planning, creating
things to do lists and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time
management that should be understood to develop an efficient
personal time management skill. These basic skills can be fine tuned
further to include the finer points of each skill that can give you that
extra reserve to make the results you desire.
But there is more skills involved in time management than the core
basics. Skills such as decision making, inherent abilities such as
emotional intelligence and critical thinking are also essential to your
personal growth.
Personal time management involves everything you do. No matter
how big and no matter how small, everything counts. Each new
knowledge you acquire, each new advice you consider, each new skill
you develop should be taken into consideration.
Having a balanced life-style should be the key result in having
personal time management. This is the main aspect that many
practitioners of personal time management fail to grasp.
Time management is about getting results, not about being busy.
The six areas that personal time management seeks to improve in
anyone's life are physical, intellectual, social, career, emotional and
The physical aspect involves having a healthy body, less stress and
The intellectual aspect involves learning and other mental growth
The social aspect involves developing personal or intimate relations
and being an active contributor to society.
The career aspect involves school and work.
The emotional aspect involves appropriate feelings and desires and
manifesting them.
The spiritual aspect involves a personal quest for meaning.
Thoroughly planning and having a set of things to do list for each of
the key areas may not be very practical, but determining which area in
your life is not being giving enough attention is part of time
management. Each area creates the whole you, if you are ignoring one
area then you are ignoring an important part of yourself.
Personal time management should not be so daunting a task. It is a
very sensible and reasonable approach in solving problems big or
A great way of learning time management and improving your
personal life is to follow several basic activities.
One of them is to review your goals whether it be immediate or longterm
goals often.
A way to do this is to keep a list that is always accessible to you.
Always determine which task is necessary or not necessary in
achieving your goals and which activities are helping you maintain a
balanced life style.
Each and everyone of us has a peek time and a time when we slow
down, these are our natural cycles. We should be able to tell when to
do the difficult tasks when we are the sharpest.
Learning to say "No". You actually see this advice often. Heed it even if
it involves saying the word to family or friends.
Pat yourself at the back or just reward yourself in any manner for an
effective time management result.
Try and get the cooperation from people around you who are actually
benefiting from your efforts of time management.
Don't procrastinate. Attend to necessary things immediately.
Have a positive attitude and set yourself up for success. But be realistic
in your approach in achieving your goals.
Have a record or journal of all your activities. This will help you get
things in their proper perspective.
These are the few steps you initially take in becoming a well rounded
As the say personal time management is the art and science of
building a better life.
From the moment you integrate into your life time management skills,
you have opened several options that can provide a broad spectrum of
solutions to your personal growth. It also creates more doors for
opportunities to knock on.

Impossible is Just a Word

Impossible is Just a Word

why not happy with my life


Everyone, at some point of his or her life, has dreamed of being
somebody special, somebody big. Who hasn't fantasized about being
the one who hits the game-winning homer? Who hasn't dreamed of
being the homecoming queen? And how many times have we
dreamed of being rich, or successful, or happy with our relationships?
Often, we dream big dreams and have great aspirations. Unfortunately,
our dreams remain just that – dreams. And our aspirations easily
collect dust in our attic.
This is a sad turn of events in our life. Instead of experiencing exciting
adventures in self actualization, we get caught up in the humdrum of
living from day-to-day just barely existing.
But you know what? Life could be so much better, if only we learned
to aim higher.
The most common problem to setting goals is the word impossible.
Most people get hung up thinking I can't do this. It's too hard. It's too
impossible. No one can do this.
However, if everyone thought that, there would be no inventions, no
innovations, and no breakthroughs in human accomplishment.
Remember that scientists were baffled when they took a look at the
humble bumblebee. Theoretically, they said, it was impossible for the
bumblebee to fly. Unfortunately for the bumble, bee no one has told it
so. So fly it does.
On the other hand, some people suffer from dreaming totally
outrageous dreams and not acting on them. The result? Broken
dreams, and tattered aspirations.
If you limit yourself with self-doubt, and self-limiting assumptions,
you will never be able to break past what you deem impossible. If you
reach too far out into the sky without working towards your goal, you
will find yourself clinging on to the impossible dream.
Try this exercise. Take a piece of paper and write down some goals in
your life. Under one header, list down things ‘you know you can do’.
Under another header, write the things ‘you might be able to do.’ And
under one more, list the things that that are ‘impossible for you to do.’
Now look at all the headers strive every day to accomplish the goals
that are under things ‘you know you can do’. Check them when you
are able to accomplish them. As you slowly are able to check all of
your goals under that heading, try accomplishing the goals under the
other header-the one that reads ‘you might be able to do.’
As of the items you wrote under things I could do are accomplished,
you can move the goals that are under things that are ‘impossible for
you to do’ to the list of things ‘you might be able to do.’
As you iterate through this process, you will find out that the goals you
thought were impossible become easier to accomplish. And the
impossible begin to seem possible after all.
You see, the technique here is not to limit your imagination. It is to
aim high, and start working towards that goal little by little. However,
it also is unwise to set a goal that is truly unrealistic.
Those who just dream towards a goal without working hard end up
disappointed and disillusioned.
On the other hand, if you told someone a hundred years ago that it
was possible for man to be on the moon, they would laugh at you. If
you had told them that you could send mail from here to the other
side of the world in a few seconds, they would say you were out of
your mind. But, through sheer desire and perseverance, these
impossible dreams are now realities.
Thomas Edison once said that genius is 1% inspiration and 99%
perspiration. Nothing could be truer. For one to accomplish his or her
dreams, there has to be had work and discipline. But take note that
that 1% has to be a think-big dream, and not some easily
accomplished one.
Ask any gym rat and he or she will tell you that there can be no gains
unless you are put out of your comfort zone. Remember the saying,
“No pain, no gain”? That is as true as it can be.
So dream on, friend! Don’t get caught up with your perceived
limitations. Think big and work hard to attain those dreams. As you

step up the ladder of progress, you will just about find out that the
impossible has just become a little bit more possible